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Hold Your Gaze Steady
There’s a decisive moment each and every time we catch the eye of another.
Whether it’s with our partner, best friend, parent, boss, student, or random person on the street, there’s the moment in which we must mutually decide where to go from here.
This moment, brief as it may be is loaded, filled with emotion, bias, and belief about who we each are as humans, both individually and in relation to each other.
In an instant, shame, interest, status, confidence, attraction, curiosity and more are calculated and the result of our internal equation determines what happens next.
Most often, either we or they avert our gaze, and we change topics or carry on our separate ways.
It’s uncomfortable to hold the gaze of another for longer than a passing glance. It feels like we’re putting our entire being on the line by doing so, opening ourselves up for judgment and ridicule.
Or maybe our fear is that the other, our partner in this experience, will see the true depths of our potential, and when the truth is laid bare between us, we’ll no longer be able to hide it away under the cover of rationalizations and excuses.
